a quote taken from the new blog... but thought I should put it here in the general one too..
"I'm looking for someone who can really challenge me, but still hold infinite respect for me. Period."
It's good insight for me, because I've often been told that it's difficult to find a guy (job, living situation, etc). unless you know what you're looking for. I wasn't sure if I completely agreed with that, but I can see why, now as I live out life post-college, it really is important to have a set of things to look for. It's just too easy to get lost in this big world.... better know what you want and take control of your destiny.
So that's definitely good insight for me in regard to what I want in a relationship. If I have chemistry with a guy, but he can't demonstrate the type of consistent respect that I'm looking for.....forget about it. To challenge me means to not be afraid to disagree with me... to question my motives... to urge me to take another look at my perspective; however, there are different ways to go about doing that. The only way I could ever do that would be to know that the same person still holds a high regard for who-I-am (both the good and bad)...and that their intentions are to only make me be a better person....then of course I'd want to be with that person. If the person is merely destructive in their comments..malicious...bullying...appearing to only try and bring me down w/ their petty comments........they most certainly lose my respect and no way in hell am I going to pursue that.
Rachael Yamagata - Under My Skin
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